Firstly, please be assured that at THS bullying is no more prevalent than any other high school, where we have a large number of young people, all developing and working out how they should act. We endeavour to address each incident as soon as we are able and at times will need to call in additional support from people such as the School Counsellor, Year Advisers and the Student Support officer.
Bullying is a very complex and highly emotive issue and one that requires a careful response. In the majority of reported incidents, the issue is not clear and the lines between bully and victim often blur, making it extremely difficult for us to deal with. That being said, please know that at THS we are committed to stamping out bullying in any form. It is something that we need to do in partnership with the whole school community.
It is important that we are working from the same definition of what bullying is. Many times we deal with incidents that are labelled bullying, which in fact are conflict. Conflict is a normal part of life there would not be one person who has not had a conflict with someone at some stage in their lives. We need to ensure students have the skills to recognize the difference and then to seek support if needed to manage that conflict
The Bullying - No Way ! (https://bullyingnoway.gov.au/) website offers this definition of bullying:
Bullying is an ongoing and deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behaviour that intends to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm. It can involve an individual or a group misusing their power, or perceived power, over one or more persons who feel unable to stop it from happening.
Bullying can happen in person or online, via various digital platforms and devices and it can be obvious (overt) or hidden (covert). Bullying behaviour is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time (for example, through sharing of digital records)
Bullying of any form or for any reason can have immediate, medium and long-term effects on those involved, including bystanders. Single incidents and conflict or fights between equals, whether in person or online, are not defined as bullying.
At THS we have a number of strategies to help students address conflict and bullying. We use the 3T Strategy which is:
1. Tell them to stop- let the person know in a calm manner that what they are saying or doing is unacceptable. Often, letting the person know it’s not OK (tell them to stop) can stop the situation from developing.
2. Turn and walk away – by walking away (or log off, remove from chat group) you are not giving the person the audience they want- make sure you tell someone (eg. Year Adviser or other person at school).
3. Talk to someone- if the situation is still not resolved after the first 2 steps, let the YA know again and if needed parents could contact the Deputy for a meeting so the full picture can be discussed and other support and strategies can be put in place.
One of the most difficult forms of bullying to address is online. The majority starts at home and spills over into school. The recommendation to help you manage this is firstly have your child remove themselves from the chat group (or other forum they are being bullied in) or block the person who is bullying. This can often stop the behaviour when they no longer have an audience. Resist the urge to make comments of your own warning other students or making threats against them. Again, this makes it difficult for us to support. On line bullying should always be reported to the local Police. We are unable to access online accounts like the Police and if we only have one part of the argument it makes it hard to make an informed judgement.
We also utilise PBL- Positive Behaviour for Learning – strategies to help students understand our expectations of how they should behave, in class and out and with teachers and other students. Our core expectations of Respect, Responsibility and Success serve to inform the school community as to what is expected by their behaviour, both in class and out.
We need to work together in partnership to support the young people at THS. This means setting an example ourselves as adults about how we resolve conflict and letting your children know it is not OK for them to bully. Above all, it is important that they seek help in resolving conflicts early and not engage in behaviour themselves that could be also seen as bullying.
I will address in the next newsletter bystander behaviour as it can be powerful in both stopping bullying and escalating bullying.
The vast majority of students at THS are respectful young people and we use a reward system called VIVO to recognise this. Ask your child to show you their VIVO account (they can access it online or through an App they download) to see where they are getting recognised for their positive behaviour.
Students can then use the ‘points’ they collect on the online shop or for other special events. The first one is coming up soon for 100 points students can receive a ticket into a Popcorn and Movie session on the last day of term. This was a very popular reward last year.
Congratulations
From Tuesday 19 March to Thursday 21 March 2019, Katerina Nicolopoulos (School Captain) will be among 120 Year 11 and 12 students from around Australia attending the 24th National Schools Constitutional Convention (NSCC), being held at the Museum of Australian Democracy at Old Parliament House, Canberra.
The topic for the 2019 Convention is, ‘A new constitutional preamble for Australia?’ This topic will provide students with the opportunity to explore the present Constitution and if a preamble is required. A range of inspirational speakers will discuss the issues with students for them to debate with all delegates.
Outcomes from the Convention will be incorporated into a Communiqué that will be presented to the Deputy President of the Senate, Senator Sue Lines, for tabling in Parliament and recorded in Hansard.
As a national delegate, Katerina was selected from over 800 students from government, independent and Catholic schools and will travel in a group of 30 students from New South Wales.
Sue Xenos
Principal