A few years ago, a niece of mine at university was walking to a major end of year exam when she got a message from her distressed best friend saying she had just broken up with her boyfriend, a cousin of the niece. My niece was so upset she did badly in the exam, very badly. As it turns out, the breakup was just another drama in the friend’s volatile relationship. But it cost my niece, dearly. It wouldn’t have happened in my time. We didn’t have mobile phones. We weren’t on a constant news cycle of the latest events, both in the world and close to home.
I find hearing about the Ukraine, the floods, even the constant details of Shane Warne’s health, distressing. I am helpless in the face of these events. It gives an air of free-floating anxiety in the background of our lives. What does it do to our young people?
When I used to go on about bad or unjust things that happened elsewhere, our then parish priest used to say, ‘I hoe my own row.’ Over the years I have discovered what a wise thing that was. Most of the time, most of us can only influence the people around us but when we do good to those people it has a real and lasting effect in our lives. I cannot take in a refugee from the Ukraine but I can talk to a lonely person in the supermarket. I cannot clean out a flooded house but I can ring up an elderly relative for a chat. When we do the simple good things we can do, it lightens our hearts and give a sense of goodness to our lives. It is in these good actions that we can anchor our lives in peace. Practicing simple, daily acts of kindness strengthens our hearts and gives a quiet joy to our lives. It also gives us courage. One day, we might find ourselves in a hard situation and discover the strength within us to step up and do something that surprises.
Loving God, you know how the awful things happening in our world can distress me. Give me the wisdom to care for the people around me and be an example to my child/ren by my acts of kindness. I ask this in Jesus’ name confident that you will hear me.
Sr Kym Harris osb