When you change your negative thinking, you look more for the good in your life. Your communication becomes more positive and your focus is on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. In a better positive state not only do you learn quicker and easier but your relationships and other areas of your life improve.
Common Myths Around Negative Thinking
Here are some common myths about negative thinking that are not very helpful:
● You can stop your negative thoughts.
You can notice that thoughts happen, and then you will be more aware of them. That means we can’t “stop” them because negative thoughts happen first. When you become aware, you have a choice – do you keep focusing on that or focus on something more positive? The key is to become aware to limit the time you are running negative thoughts (stories) in your mind.
● “Just change a negative thought to a positive thought”.
That can work if you believe the positive thought. That’s a common catchphrase “just change it to positive”. However, if you don’t believe the positive thought, it can actually become a reminder and deepen the negative thought.
Two Ideas For A More Positive Mindset
1. Balance Your Mental Diet
It’s impossible to completely escape the overwhelming negative images in news, film, online, gaming etc. That’s why it’s important to limit the negative, distressing external sources and increase your exposure to positive stories and images.
2. Identify Your Positive Circle of Influence
You become the average of the five closest people around you! You know when you are around positive people because you walk away feeling uplifted and inspired rather than drained and exhausted. Take a moment to write down the five most positive people who influence you.